Sweet Magic Society
Moving Out of Sour Speak Society
Any time we are about to leave the house in a car, my daughter asks two things: “Do you want me to manifest no traffic? Do you want me to manifest a parking space?”
The other day, my mama, my daughter and I were heading to downtown El Paso to visit a children’s museum. My mama was going on about how she doesn’t go to her Mahjong game because its downtown and parking is challenging. Now this is the queen of manifesting when it comes to clothes or household items and thrift stores. You can say “I want a pair of REI hiking pants in black, an older style no longer produced, waterproof, adjustable on the ankle and a metal button clasp, three zippers on the side in size 6.” The next day, she’ll have materialized them from the local thrift store. That’s her jam. Second hand store magic.
My daughter on the other hand uses her magic for everything in life, for herself and others. So when we were going to El Nube to play hard and meet new friends, as she does, nothing was going to stop her. We drove around for a while until she spotted our destination, a big beautiful new building. It was busy, popping with school buses in front and the event center across the street hosting BTS fans, tons of traffic and no street parking at all. The one lot we found was $46 for six hours. I would pay that for convenience, but my mama would likely die in that moment and we want her healthy mind, body and spirit.
Micah realized we ready to settle and asked “Mama, do you want me to manifest a parking spot?” Before I said replied my mama started in about this very reason she doesn’t go downtown during the day. “Abuela, I can just make a parking spot, you can too”.
Just then a car pulled out to reveal our perfect parking space and we were on our way.
She reminds me to be intentional about it as well. We were going to a trampoline park this weekend. Its a warehouse with artificial lights and my vision is dimmed when there isn’t natural light or at night without glasses (which I realize is a choice since I was told that would happen after eye surgery and I adopted it as truth). We went out to the car to drop off our water bottle and see if I had a pair of glasses. She stopped me before we walked towards the car. “Mom, put your hands like this, hand over heart and tell the glasses to be there”. And they were, of course, which I kind of thought they would be, but cemented the reality with our intention.
This is how we have intended to live our life since she was born. Actually from before she came into the earth. During pregnancy, which I truly felt my most flowy, feminine, receptive state, I slowed to the pace of nature. A cadence where nothing is rushed, but all is accomplished. And with that, everything was intentional, ceremonial, full of rhythms I’ve never truly embodied, until those nine moons.
Limitless Guidance
Wayne Dyer has always been a teacher to me, alive and now with his legacy through interviews and books. What rang through my mind during pregnancy and these first seven years of Micah’s life, was his story about a Hawaiian Kahuna, to show the difference between operating from a state of knowing versus a state of doubt.
His teachings emphasize that doubt is a learned behavior that creates an internal blockage, whereas knowing is a divine connection. A straight shot to source. Which Micah Sol truly is. All children are.
So with that as a foundation, I made my work to avoid imposing doubt and it becoming a learned habit. It was easy breezy in some areas, but nearly impossible in the world of health and body. Fortunately, I’m married to a man who has a fierce conviction in the power of self-healing, especially when it comes to his daughter, so his voice and words superseded mine over the years.
Avra K’davra
Or Abracadabra as most people know it. Avra in hebrew means I will create, K’davra As I speak the word. I will create as I speak. I speak and create worlds into existence. That’s M Sol’s truth. It’s everyone’s truth.
Sweet magic available at our mouth, voice, fingertips.
And she walks around believing she can do anything, because she can and that’s what children are here to remind us of and teach us when we forget.
And boy does she remind me. “WATCH YOUR WORDS, MOM!” is a common phrase out of her mouth. Resolute and powerful from this pint-sized superhuman.
Unfortunately its our status quo, the go-to so often in our society to think, speak and assume sour words. Always waiting for the other shoe to drop, the worst case scenario, the ‘poor’ friend, situation, animal. We say we’re ‘sick’ when our cells are literally moving towards homeostasis and constant healing. We tell people to hope instead of trust. We move from our logical, intellect and mind rather than the deepest knowing in our body.
And our words and voice are the first and final creators of the world we all wish to see. But our pains, projections and panics run the show unconsciously, habitually. We get up in the morning and ‘crush the day’. We think the same thoughts from the day before, literally 90% of thoughts are recycled from the past. We go to our phones and fill with stress, doing and comparison. We run from one thing to the next and keep running until we’re so worn down we can’t even think about space. The thought of a break or stillness leads us to react and believe, “If I stop, so will everything else”. The finances, the opportunities, the relationships, the teachings, the impact will inevitably disappear if I’m not in machine mode.
And those words become our experience. Our reality. Our world.
The thoughts we think, the ideas we assume and the words we speak from inside are constantly shaping and molding what is out there, what is outside.
Speaking Sweetness
Right now, humanity is still primarily running from the lower chakras of our subtle bodies. The root and sacral chakras are dependent on foundational needs like survival and material desires. The drive towards security and safety from the outside, instead of feeling and embodying it from within and the knowing of a truth that you are always safe and secure keeps us in a scarcity and survivor mindset.
Sacral chakra is involved with pleasure and control, immediate gratification, sensual indulgence and extreme emotions that lead to screen, sex, shopping, busy addiction or just numbing out.
Collectively, on a global scale, we’re in this deep. It’s collapsing, but the old is making a lot of noise dying. It looks like yielding the power we all have for a a single-minded or individual focus. Primal energy, superhuman force for domination. A distorted and dysfunction use of our root, led by fear and survival. It anchors us to ‘feel safe’ through violence, war, defensiveness, man-made protection. Sound familiar?
This has created a society that lives habits of fear, anger or addiction to pleasure, unconsciously instead of a more conscious choice.
We’re living and have been living for thousands of years in these survival-driven states.
Moving up the chakras is what we’re learning to do in humanity as a whole. The shift from “I” to “We”, that doesn’t neglect the I, but fills it fully from within and serves from overflow. The move from self-interest to compassion, self-love and deep, meaningful relationships. Where no one is a stranger and we’re truly brothers and sisters walking each other home.
Throat chakra is all about authentic truth and full expression. Speaking from your true self not conformity, secrets or the status quo. Expressing from the throat with kindness and active boundaries (boundaries are for self not the other) and transparency.
And as we move into this heart, throat, knowing (third-eye), soul space we speak from there too.
As children, we learn this through secure attachment and knowing that the foundation of security and safety is there provided by caregivers. As adults we reparent ourselves to provide it for ourselves. To a knowing that our bodies are home and treat it as the most sacred temple it truly is.
From this inner security emerges that sweet magic speak over the sour one.
Its also intentional. You have to slow down, allow space and speak from a knowing response, not a habitual reaction.
I’m not talking about sweet speaking magic like a southern belle with a ‘bless his heart’ and a ‘oh my’. The sweetness can be fierce and empowering:
“Watch your words. What do you really want to call in? Speak beauty over yourself, lady!” “Tell me what you really want in life”.
Recently, I had a situation and spoke from my reactive and sour self: “It’s fine. I’ll just do it myself since I can’t count on anyone anyway.” Instead, I could have used sweetness as firm and resolute: "I’m feeling overwhelmed right now and I’d really love your support with this. Can we find a way to make it happen together?”
This comes with a regulated nervous system that operates from the conscious brain, not the unconscious one.
It’s all about taking a beat or many beats before operating from our inner kid, from our survival self and speaking from the truth that is “nothing is f’d here, so lets create more sweetness and magic”.
The Shift Show
The other day, I was in a serious fight for my limitations and the limitations of the relationship with my husband. I call it the grooves of goodness, neural pathways that have been laid down over the years of inner work, practice, real life living and choosing the truth over the rehearsed reactions. It’s a mode where you expect and accept goodness instead of self-sabotaging or running away from the magic that is always available if you choose it.
We were at a music festival, the place we use to feel the most alive and I latched onto a single thing he said and ran with it. We were having a great time, amazing conversation, connecting, eating delicious food and one thing threw me into a tizzy that lasted until the next day. And so did our discomfort and disconnection.
So we’re sitting at the table, me arguing for my sob story and my pain, speaking sour words from my survival and control areas, wanting to be right. Wanting to be validated and feel justified in my fight. All of the sudden, J says “I know you’ll get through this and when you do, that’s the best moment of our relationship, shit the best moment of my life!”
Not victim, not “how can I fix this?”. Just knowing from the depths of his soul that I will shift at the most unlikely moment and realize that again, “nothing is F’d here” ($1 to the person who knows where this phrase is from”. And from that declaration of his knowing, he kept riffing, strong, firm, fierce and a touch of levity because he was IN IT. He was living in the end of me through this process and smiling, light, happy, laughing. When J gets animated, excited, fired-up its the best thing in the whole world.
And him getting fired up about the sweet magic that is our life and our relationship, flipped me. He wasn’t talking to the poor victim, ego-run, survival mode Erica, he was talking to to the essence of who I am without the fear or division or lack,, the one yielding her power to defend her limits.
It’s a shit show until it becomes a shift show. And you can feel it in the room, in your body, in your whole being. It’s like the soul comes online and says “there she is”. Light, bright and magical.
Everything Is Always Working Out For Me
That’s the special sauce. That’s the sweet magic. To run on this truth, can you do it? Can you live your life through the sweet magic thoughts, idea and speech that everything is always working out for me? It’s an assumption that vibrates all the way to your cells, organs and each and every system in your body. It may not be familiar or comfortable, but do it, say it, think it, assume it enough and it will.
It’s the exact same as sour speak. Sour speak is habitual. Sour speak is collective. Sour speak is relatable and easy and default.
But no one actually knows the future, we just think we do based on patterns, projections and habits.
Sweet magic is now a learned choice. A conscious one. And the more we CHOOSE sweet magic, the more grooves of goodness we create in our brain, in our experience, in our reality. The more grooves we make, the longer and deeper they become. Neuroplasticity takes over and eventually it becomes our default, new normal.
Do this enough and you shift your entire physiology, chemistry and neurology. Your entire being, while your body follows. Do this with how you look, how you feel, what you see in the mirror, what you see in the world. Do this enough and the changes create ripples into the ether and your next door neighbor. Mirror neurons, interpersonal neurology takes place all day every day, imagine when society shifts from sour to sweet.
We need more of this in the world. Us adults are the models, we do it now and the whole world starts to transform. Critical mass studies say that social change shifts with just 25% of the population tips. Other models say 10%. In protest success, in non-violent civic movements, which sweet over sour falls under, just 3.5%.
3.5%!!!
11 - 12 million people in the U.S. to flip this. I say the U.S. because I live here sometimes. That’s a couple cities.
And its free, simple and available to everyone. The medicine INside.
To think, assume and speak intentionally, deliberately, consciously, beautifully. Out of and from your highest self, your soul, source. Not out of boring and familiar habit and default.
What an invitation.
It’s simple, but not easy. It’s exhausting and confronting until its not. Until we realize that all of this is an illusion, might as well make its a fun one. A magical one.
Sweet magic society is deep, profound, serious, kind, peaceful and compassionate. To self and to others. Its also playful, fun, silly and radically unserious. Because all of life is all of these things and more.
Another world is not only possible, she is on her way. On a quiet day, I can hear her breathing.
Arundhati Roy
What Does This Look Like? Sound Like?
Giving yourself space and grace. And nervous system regulation. It’s a challenge to create consciously when you’re in fight or flight. It can come but usually it takes a nudge. So:
shake until you get all the silly fear and illusion out
dance like a wild animal after a fright
ice massage
cold plunge
walk in nature with some intermittent sprints or jumps
splash freezing cold water on your face
EFT- emotional freedom technique/tapping
have an orgasm
scream into a pillow or into the abyss
float
take a bath
breathwork
sing or mantra (my latest favorite)
Then I like to start with a question, “how good can it get?” or “what would my highest self think/say/assume?”. “Wouldn’t it be great if…?”
If I zoom out, I’ll fast forward to the end result and think “what made this so amazing?”
Or just hold “everything is always working out for me” as the focal point and think and speak from there. This is the song that plays in my head often. Just popped in there by spirit whenever I’m a little wonky.
This is for big and small parts of life. And it actually is more fun to do for the immediate things in life rather than the really big ones.
A sweet magical life is not only possible, she’s here now, all you have to do is choose her.
Ok. That’s all that’s coming thru for now.
Thank you for reading. Thank you for being here. I love you.